Do you know how to give the right type of feedback?
I think I do. Mainly because I realized how pathetic my feedback was in a meeting while others around me provided excellent feedback.
In this article, I will share with you 2 unconstructive ways to give feedback and 1 useful way to give feedback.
Let’s begin with the unconstructive ways.
1) When you critique without context or resolution
This usually happens when people think they are better than you and have no interest in making you better.
A classic example of this is as follows…
Person A: “I don’t think this is a good idea.”
Person B: “Why?”
Person A: “That’s up to you to figure it out. It’s your job.”
This response would make sense if this scenario happens more than once. But if this is the first time or if it’s a new discussion, responses like these are neither constructive nor useful.
In fact, the outcome of conversations like this is time-wasting, because if a person doesn’t know what or how to improve, how much progress can he/she make?
2) The reluctant contributor
This is me a lot of the time. I’ve finally realized it.
I’ve often held back on constructive feedback because I’m either afraid to hurt the other person’s feelings or I feel my contribution has little value.
But if the other person is expecting feedback, no good can come from your silence.
There are many ways to provide feedback without being insulting. And there are just as many ways to acknowledge that you’re not an expert while still offering your thoughts.
So, what’s the ideal way to provide feedback? Well, I’m sure you can infer it from the 2 ways you should avoid. Regardless, here it is.
1) Every feedback you give should be solution driven
If you think something needs improvement, explain why and provide some tips on how to get better.
If you think something needs improvement, but don’t know how, suggest ways someone can get those answers.
The main idea is to not stop short. If you want to provide feedback, make sure there is a solution or a path to one.
If not, what’s the value of your feedback?
Now that you’ve got that out of the way, I have a question for you. Are you comfortable with self-promotion? If you’re not, maybe this article on how to self-promote might help you.
PS: If you’ve got any feedback for me, I’d greatly appreciate it. After all, I would love to be useful to you. 🙂